One of the easiest ways to experience greater confidence is to take on the thoughts, mannerisms, and movements of confident people. Others will begin treating you with more respect, which will boost your confidence even more.
Feel and look better with a few simple tips:
- Speak more slowly. Think about the most confident people you know. Think about James Bond. How does he speak? Slowly and authoritatively as you’re responding to something said to you. Take a deep breath and pause for a second. Take your time and speak slowly.
- Avoid trying to please everyone. It’s an unachievable goal anyway. If you’re truly confident, you don’t feel the need to be accepted by everyone. Be kind and polite, but don’t spend your time trying to be a pleaser. When you spend too much time on others and ignore yourself, they come to the conclusion that you must not be that important.
- Have the proper level of eye contact. If your eye contact is poor, it can be challenging to develop it. Start slowly and make the effort to slowly increase your eye contact during all your interactions with others. Remember that it’s not a staring contest, but too little eye contact is a very strong sign that you lack self-confidence.
- Visualize yourself being confident in all situations. Imagine yourself being confident at work, with a stranger, and on a date. Spending a few minutes visualizing each day is a great way to mentally practice being confident. In fact, imagine applying all of these tips in the situations where you feel your confidence is lagging.
- Slow your movements and gestures. Again, think of James Bond. His gestures are slow and smooth. Quick, twitchy movements are interpreted as a sign of social discomfort. Try to be elegant and graceful.
- Move with purpose. Consider how your co-workers walk down the hall at your workplace. The lower-level people tend to walk with a lack of purpose and direction. It’s almost as if they’re mindlessly wandering around. Then consider how the most powerful person at work walks. She’s not rushed, but she’s not wasting time and knows where she’s going.
- Stand up straight. Your mom told you a hundred times. You feel and look better when you stand tall. Look straight ahead.
- Avoid fidgeting. All of your movements have a purpose when you’re confident. There’s no reason to bounce your leg, wave your hands around, or to pick at yourself.
- Exercise. Thirty minutes of exercise is a great way to look and feel better. Exercise has a positive effect on your mood and attitude. Firming up your body is sure to boost your confidence, too.
- Think confident thoughts. You can think any thoughts you choose, so make your thoughts positive! Tell yourself that you’re confident and people respect you. Whatever you continuously say to yourself will eventually become your reality.