When I am hurt, I discuss my feelings with the other person involved. I am uninterested in laying blame, but I attempt to be open and honest, sharing how I feel in the wake of his or her actions. I speak out of a desire for deeper understanding and respect.
When I hurt someone else, I apologize with a sincere heart. I let go of my pride as well as any desire for revenge.
Very rarely will an issue be entirely one person's fault. I resist the idea that the other person must approach me before I can forgive or ask for forgiveness, after all, I cannot change anyone else.
I can only take responsibility for my own actions. For this reason, I am willing to ask for forgiveness and to seek understanding, even when I recognize that the other person was at fault, as well.
If a hurt is too great or becomes too deeply entrenched, I am unashamed to ask for help from someone who is trained in helping people find peace with relationships in their lives.
- How will I take the first step in mending a rift with anyone?
- Do I deal with anger and hurt early, before it takes root in my life?
- Am I willing to ask for help in my relationships if I need it?